Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence
What is domestic violence or domestic abuse?
Domestic violence or domestic abuse can be defined as "Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality."
Whatever form the abuse takes, it is rarely a one-off incident and should instead be seen as a pattern of abusive and controlling behaviour through which the abuser seeks power over their victim.
If left unchallenged, abuse can become more frequent and severe.
Family members are defined as mother, father, son, daughter, brother, sister and grandparents, whether directly related, in-laws or step family.
Abuse can include some of the following:
- Psychological
- Physical
- Sexual
- Financial
- Emotional
Abuse could involve:
- Actual or threat of physical harm
- Deprivation of food, sleep or money
- Biting, pushing, kicking, punching
- Name calling and verbal threats
- Sexual threats or forced sex
- Use of weapons
- Emotional blackmail
- Isolation from family or friends
- Imprisonment in your own home
- Humiliation or belittlement
- Using your children against you
If you answer yes to any of the above, you may be living with abuse.
Do you need help or know anyone who does?
If you are in a violent or abusive relationship or if you know or are supporting somebody in that situation, don’t suffer in silence, help is available from the agencies listed below:
For emergencies call the Police by dialling 999, they will respond, investigate and assist you.
For non-emergency numbers call 101.
The National Domestic Violence Helpline Number can be reached on (FREEPHONE) 0808 2000 247. This is a 24-hour service.
Additional sources of help
- National Domestic Violence Website
- Lighthouse Women’s Aid
- Suzy Lamplugh Trust
- Suffolk County Council - Domestic Abuse Help and Advice
- The Ferns - Sexual Assault Referral Centre - 0300 123 5058
- Suffolk Rape Crisis: Women and Girls Only Helpline - 0800 085 0520
- Karma Nirvana - ‘Honour’ Based Violence, Forced Marriage, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) - 0800 599 9247
- NSPCC - Free FGM 24hr advice and support - 0800 028 3550
- Polish Domestic Violence Helpline - 01270 260106
- Nowe Życie Bez Przemocy
- Telefony zaufania Lister powyżej dostępne są wnież w języku polskim i litewskim
Lithuanian: Linijoms Lister auk čiau taip pat yra lenkų, lietuvių - M.A.L.E - 0808 801 0327
- Victim Support - 0808 16 89 111
- Suffolk Gay and Lesbian Helpline - (FREEPHONE) 0300 330 0630
- Crimestoppers - 0800 555 111
- Childline - 0800 1111
- NSPCC National Helpline - 0800 800 0500
Clare’s Law
People with concerns about their partner’s history are able to request background information from Suffolk police.
The aim of this scheme is to give you a formal mechanism to make inquiries about your partner if you are worried that they may have been abusive in the past.
An application can only be made by contacting the police: